Friday, December 22, 2017

The best way to express a renewed and forever growing love toward your spouse

Imagine this, you’ve been married for almost 10 years, you wake up every morning, looking at the person sleeping next to you, you realize that as years pass by your love for that person continues to grow each day. Though you tell them how much you love and care for them, still you can’t find the right words to describe it perfectly, or ways to express it. What do you do to express your feelings and commitment to them?

Well, I am sure we have more than thousand ideas on how we could nail that haven’t we! Some will say, on your way home down the road, buy her a rose, knock on her door and surprise her. How about surprising them by getting that one thing they’ve been wishing for! Ooh, wait a minute, how about taking them out for a wonderful meal at that restaurant they’ve been talking about!  If you don’t think the restaurant idea is great, how about your own cooking ha! How about a hug while they are cooking dinner, or an unexpected kiss. How about romantic gestures and sexual expressions of desire, your desire for their company? Trust me, all the above are good ways to express your feelings toward your spouse and the truth is, we all long to be loved and appreciated for who we are, and desire to be forgiven for the times we blow it.

When you communicate your love in a way that is meaningful to your partner, it shows your commitment. Real, long-term relationships are built on a lot more than chemistry and compatibility. Commitment is the essential ingredient that keeps it all together. For those very reasons, it’s so important to assure your partner of your commitment each and every day. In order to do that, you will have to communicate it with sincerity, which brings me to today’s sharing.

Let me introduce you to Steven who has been my long time brother and friend, Steven and his wife got married couple years ago. Despite all those years passing by, Steven’s love for his wife has continued to flourish. Recently Steven showed us how committed he was toward his wife by taking the event of honouring that relationship back to the alter where it all started years ago.

Here I was in the Masai land escorting Steven and His wife to church to re instate those vows once again, what an amazing way to express your commitment toward your partner. Not only was it a commitment to his wife, it was also a commitment toward God and a declaration to the church. This was a way to express how anew he found his wife each day. This was a way to say ‘I didn’t just marry you five years ago, I am marrying you again today, for each day you are still new to me’.

Attending this exclusive event was a blessing and a lesson to me, it was the best way ever to show your partner how much you care and love them. It was a statement to say that ‘Not only am I loving you in my own ways, but I am loving you the way God expects me to love you’. Neither am I saying that the ways I have mentioned above are off the grid, each of us finds their own way to express how they feel about their partners, however this was the best way to show that commitment because it wasn’t only to the partner, it was also a commitment toward God who first loved us.

By sharing this, I hope that you and I learn a lesson especially on the ways we as Christians use to express our commitments in relationships and marriages. Whatever way you find to express it, remember God in the midst of it all, and love your partner the way God would expect you to.  If you truly love them don’t shy away from sharing your own emotions and the way you feel about them. Ways like this expresses respect, appreciation, honesty, trust, sacrifice, love and loyalty toward your spouse.  Always delight in your spouse and rejoice over them simply because of who they are, and love them just as God has loved you, this way you show sacrificial love.

Below I share some photos from the event, I hope you learn something from this, and may it be a blessing and a nutritious delight to the development of your relationship...

(Steven and his wife slicing the cake)

(Two Masai couples who came for the commitment)

(Padre, its cake time)

(Steven and his wife after the ceremony)

(Gudilla & Steven's wife)

(Gudilla, Steven's wife, Steven, Deo)

(Steven and his wife after the celebration)

(Other couples who came to make the commitment)

Rumishael Ulomi is a Freelance Christian Consultant, Life Coach, and Motivational Speaker in the areas of Christian Ministry, Business, Entrepreneurship, and Social Sector development residing in Moshi,Tanzania.


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